Q: Why is it that no matter how hard I try, I still fail?

A: It depends on whose perspective you want to get.

A pessimist would say that your objectives are too high and unreachable. An optimist would say that reaching your objectives is simply a matter of time and distance. You just need to exert the required amount of effort to get you from where you are to where you want to be, given the right direction.

A pessimist would say that you don't have the necessary knowledge and skills to achieve your objective. An optimist would say that knowledge and skills are simply tools to reach your objectives. Anybody can learn new knowledge and gain new skills whenever they want. You may not learn as fast as the other person, but if you really try, you WILL gain those tools.

A pessimist would say that your efforts are fruitless and result to nothing. An optimist would say that even if you don't achieve your objectives now, you can use the experiences that you gained from that attempt in making better decisions and helping you achieve your objectives tomorrow.

A pessimist would say that your objectives are simply not meant for you. An optimist would say that you only fail when you stop trying.
This is definitely one of the best answers I have read on Quora:
"When Empathy hurts, Compassion can heal"
Read the full question and answer here.
Reading through Quora, I found this:

A woman's history of vaginal orgasm is discernible from her walk

Yes, it is a legitimate research done in Belgium. Complete text of the research can be found here. For those who are too lazy to read, here's the results part of the abstract:
In the sample of healthy young Belgian women (half of whom were vaginally orgasmic), history of vaginal orgasm (triggered solely by penile–vaginal intercourse) was diagnosable at far better than chance level (81.25% correct, Fisher's Exact Test P < 0.05) by appropriately trained sexologists. Clitoral orgasm history was unrelated to both ratings and to vaginal orgasm history. Exploratory analyses suggest that greater pelvic and vertebral rotation and stride length might be characteristic of the gait of women who have experienced vaginal orgasm (r = 0.51, P < 0.05).

Translation: Trained sexologists was able to correctly identify girls who have history of vaginal orgasm 81.25% of the time.

Please note, however, that the sample size was rather small (16 individuals).
Good morning my dear kambal! Happy 31st birthday! Sulitin mo itong year na to, this is the last year na nasa kalendaryo ka pa. ;) 

Thirty one years ago, God decided to create a family that He will forever bless and guide and nourish. He started with the mother. She is a gentle soul with a very sharp mind. She will be in charge of keeping her husband (aka eldest child) in line specially with his constant desire to play games. To make things fair, God also designed her to have a constant desire to shop, first for herself, but eventually for their children. She will strive to keep everything in order, with her uncanny prowess in planning and foresight. She will be the perfect partner for her husband, and the perfect mother for their children. And so, thirty one years ago, God created you.

And I will be forever grateful to Him for that special day. 

This is your special day. We may have limited budget, we may have many constraints, but always remember that YOU are special, and that is all that matters. I have been blessed by God by the fact that as early as now, He has already shown me the meaning of my life: to love, serve, and provide for you and our family. Even though it is your birthday, thirty one years ago, I was the one who received a very special gift. And I will ask for nothing more.

31 Reasons I am Grateful For You
1. You gave me the best gift in the whole world - our son
2. This slot is reserved for our future children :)
3. You constantly remind me to shave to look "pogi"
4. ...and to have my haircut!
5. You always have a plan for everything
6. And I mean everything -- even planning for our "palusot"
7. You *almost* always let me sleep now whenever I want
8. You accept me as a grown-up man-boy who loves computer games
9. ...and gave me PS4 for Christmas!
10. You *try* to go to stores with seats whenever I accompany you in your shopping
11. ...and constantly asks my opinion in choosing which item to buy
12. ...and picks the one I didn't choose
13. Sensible and thought-provoking conversations almost every night
14. ...which sometimes lead to quarrels
15 ...but always make us better individuals and improve our relationship as a couple
16. The constant effort to become the better version of ourselves
17. For getting me closer to God
18. Believing in me and my capabilities
19 ...and trusting me to provide for our family
20. For sharing our antics with the rest of the world
21. For encouraging me to value and treasure our friends
22. For inspiring me to achieve my dreams
23. ...and keeping my priorities straight
24. For the laughter while watching our favorite TV shows
25. ...and letting me make you happy :P
26. The delicious food you cook for me whenever you are in the mood
27. Keeping the house clean and orderly
28. Looking for different ways to celebrate life
29. Growing up and learning together
30. Being a thoughful and loving mother to our child
31. Simply being the best wife a husband could ever have

Honey, I love you so much and I hope that in my little ways, I would be able to show you how grateful I am for the gift of you. Happy birthday!
The Big Bang Marriage's Season 2 is about to end with our wedding anniversary on Sunday. This has been a very special year for us due to the arrival of our cutest cast: Baby Lex! As we approach the end of this season and prepare for our third year, I would like to give a special message to my co-star, my one and only kambal.

Honey, when I look in your eyes and you're looking back in mine, everything feels not quite normal. I feel stronger and weaker at the same time. I feel excited and, at the same time, terrified. The truth is, I don't know what I feel, except I know what kind of man I want to be... =P

Seriously though, the past year has been a roller coaster ride for the both of us. Our first Christmas together, your labor and delivery of the loveliest baby in the whole wide world, the zombie months, nanny problems, and the monthly celebration of Lex's birthday, are just some of the awesome moments that we shared together. I loved how these events help us grow and mature to become the couple that we are right now.

I am very thankful to God for you and Lex. You always inspire me to become the best person I can be. I can truly say that I am who I am today -- happy, fulfilled, and inspired -- in great part because of you. Ikaw ang nagbibigay ng lakas sa akin tuwing umaga, at nagtatanggal ng pagod at worries tuwing gabi. I love talking with you, being with you, and doing simple small things for you. I love you. 

Like what I said during our wedding, "ilang bagyo man ang dumating, hinding hindi kita iiwan." In our two years of married life, we didn't only survive, we conquered! Looking forward to forevermore with you. Happy Anniversary!
Note: This post is labeled Quora. This means that this is one of my posts in Quora and I am sharing/elaborating it here in my blog for posterity's sake.

Q: I love History but why so much pain and death?

A: It depends on which side of History you are looking. In History, like in everything else, for every death, destruction, and pain, there is also life, discoveries, inventions, and happiness. 

History is like the world's diary, written by many different authors. What you learn depends on which author you read, and whatever these authors decide to write about.

Another thing to consider is how YOU process the things that you read and learn. Pain and death are not the end-all of a story. They are simply realities of life, just like birth, victory, and happiness. It depends on you on which area you want to focus on. 


The meaning of life is finding life's meaning.

Analogy:
Your life is a story.
The lesson of the story is the meaning of your life.

As you read a book, you will never fully realize its lesson until you finish reading. 

As you live your life, you will never fully and conclusively find the meaning of your life until, well, until you die.

Great stories are great not because the ending is great, but because every page, from beginning 'til the end, fills you up with different emotions, inspires you, teaches you something.

The meaning of your life is the summary and consolidation of all your experiences. Only you have the power to make it great or boring.

You may finish reading a book without fully understanding and appreciating the story's lesson.

Some people live and die without really discovering the meaning of their lives.

The meaning of life is living life, discovering your potentials, and using your potentials to affect your surroundings.




Originally posted in Quora