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V-Day 2019

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"Is life + love = happy?" -Lex
This simple question, coming from a 5 year old boy, made me think about how simple life should be. In our unending quest to find happiness, we try so many things, go to different places, and aspire for various goals. We spend a lot of time, money, and energy in this seemingly unending pursuit. And most of the time, we still come home feeling tired, lonely, and unfulfilled. 
My life so far has been a rollercoaster of emotions, especially the first 30 years. But someone changed everything for the better. This someone made me realize that even though life has many ups and downs, love has a way to make everything better. It is through love that we can convert a good experience into a great memory, and a bad experience into a good lesson. For when we love, we strive to become better than what we already are. When we love, we gain our north star, our purpose, our anchor, our home. 


That someone is none other than my wife.
To my dear wife, you know t…

Random Thoughts on Fatherhood and Blogging

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It has been more than 4 years since I became a father, and my journey is still a young one. I would love to write every little detail of my exhilarating ride, but the problem with blogging when I already have a family is that I am not talking about just myself anymore. Back when I started polluting the Internet with my nonsense writings, I made a conscious decision that I would not care about what people think about me because of the things and events that I write, especially about what's going on in my mind. This was my outlet, this was my punching bag, and at times, this was the only thing keeping me sane.

But this is not the case anymore. As a father, my first and foremost concern is the well-being of my family. Unfortunately, this means filtering my thoughts, censoring my words, and being careful on how people will perceive my family based on what I write. I don't care if you see me as a corny, emotional, attention-seeking person. That is your problem, not mine. But if som…

Success And Failure

Q: Why is it that no matter how hard I try, I still fail?

A: It depends on whose perspective you want to get.

A pessimist would say that your objectives are too high and unreachable. An optimist would say that reaching your objectives is simply a matter of time and distance. You just need to exert the required amount of effort to get you from where you are to where you want to be, given the right direction.

A pessimist would say that you don't have the necessary knowledge and skills to achieve your objective. An optimist would say that knowledge and skills are simply tools to reach your objectives. Anybody can learn new knowledge and gain new skills whenever they want. You may not learn as fast as the other person, but if you really try, you WILL gain those tools.

A pessimist would say that your efforts are fruitless and result to nothing. An optimist would say that even if you don't achieve your objectives now, you can use the experiences that you gained from that att…

Project TILT: Empathy and Compassion

This is definitely one of the best answers I have read on Quora:
"When Empathy hurts, Compassion can heal" Read the full question and answer here.

Project TILT: Ladies, how's your gait?

Reading through Quora, I found this:

A woman's history of vaginal orgasm is discernible from her walk

Yes, it is a legitimate research done in Belgium. Complete text of the research can be found here. For those who are too lazy to read, here's the results part of the abstract:
In the sample of healthy young Belgian women (half of whom were vaginally orgasmic), history of vaginal orgasm (triggered solely by penile–vaginal intercourse) was diagnosable at far better than chance level (81.25% correct, Fisher's Exact Test P < 0.05) by appropriately trained sexologists. Clitoral orgasm history was unrelated to both ratings and to vaginal orgasm history. Exploratory analyses suggest that greater pelvic and vertebral rotation and stride length might be characteristic of the gait of women who have experienced vaginal orgasm (r = 0.51, P < 0.05).
Translation: Trained sexologists was able to correctly identify girls who have history of vaginal orgasm 81.25% of the time.

Thirty One Years Ago

Good morning my dear kambal! Happy 31st birthday! Sulitin mo itong year na to, this is the last year na nasa kalendaryo ka pa. ;) 

Thirty one years ago, God decided to create a family that He will forever bless and guide and nourish. He started with the mother. She is a gentle soul with a very sharp mind. She will be in charge of keeping her husband (aka eldest child) in line specially with his constant desire to play games. To make things fair, God also designed her to have a constant desire to shop, first for herself, but eventually for their children. She will strive to keep everything in order, with her uncanny prowess in planning and foresight. She will be the perfect partner for her husband, and the perfect mother for their children. And so, thirty one years ago, God created you.
And I will be forever grateful to Him for that special day. 
This is your special day. We may have limited budget, we may have many constraints, but always remember that YOU are special, and that is all…

The Big Bang Marriage Season 2

The Big Bang Marriage's Season 2 is about to end with our wedding anniversary on Sunday. This has been a very special year for us due to the arrival of our cutest cast: Baby Lex! As we approach the end of this season and prepare for our third year, I would like to give a special message to my co-star, my one and only kambal.

Honey, when I look in your eyes and you're looking back in mine, everything feels not quite normal. I feel stronger and weaker at the same time. I feel excited and, at the same time, terrified. The truth is, I don't know what I feel, except I know what kind of man I want to be... =P

Seriously though, the past year has been a roller coaster ride for the both of us. Our first Christmas together, your labor and delivery of the loveliest baby in the whole wide world, the zombie months, nanny problems, and the monthly celebration of Lex's birthday, are just some of the awesome moments that we shared together. I loved how these events help us grow an…